Bridal
This cannot be emphasized enough. You see, wedding preparations come with its own demands; your mind is constantly churning with ideas and thoughts. You’ll be required to have countless meetings with various people. You also have your husband-to-be with whom you still need to have intentional dates with, your bridal party which needs to be readied and we have not even started on the vendors. Then there’s some of those subtle demands form our parents….it can be a crazily packed time. That is why you ought to be very intentional not to lose yourself in the process.
One of the ways to do this apart from having accountability with friends is journaling. This may or may not be a new concept to you. But one thing about journaling is that it helps put together your thoughts and feelings down on a paper or a virtual paper, if journaling online is your thing. This also helps bring things to perspective, helping you avoid bias and be objective during this season. You are literally able to pause and reflect, even if it’s just for a moment.
Most times in this process, you are either talking with your fiancé, committee, parents, friends, you name them and without knowing, you may find yourself overwhelmed with suggestions and recommendations. Take time to decompress through journaling. Write down your thoughts and feelings genuinely and assess how you feel about them. It may demand total honesty and transparency with yourself, and I hope you my friend have learnt this skill of being truthful to yourself.
There may come times when you feel as though “vitu haisongi vile unataka” (things are not progressing the way you’d want them to) write that down as well, try to assess why you think that’s so. You will realize that most journaling sessions if not all, help you go back to God for wisdom and counsel.
You see sis, at the end of the day, God is the one who instituted marriage and you may not think of it in this way but He knows all the demands of wedding preparations and so as you journal, pray. Be fervent in prayer.
I will not forget to mention that living in the moment also means accepting celebratory messages and enjoying the feeling of knowing that you are getting married. Girl, you’ve waited for so long. Take time to now bask in the sweet feeling of the season. It is a beautiful thing, don’t deny yourself from feeling it. Enjoy time with your fiancé, enjoy your dates, enjoy the times you still have to live alone or with your family, enjoy the spa moments (when you can afford them), enjoy being treated by friends, enjoy the bridal showers and your friends just pouring out their love to you genuinely. Simply enjoy and live in the moment with thankfulness to God in your heart. Savor the moment.
Love,
Euslah Rop