Dear Bride,
Congratulations on your engagement! This is such an exciting time in your life, filled with joy, anticipation, and, let’s be honest, a fair share of stress. As you embark on this beautiful journey towards your wedding day, I want to share some heartfelt advice on setting boundaries and protecting your well-being during this whirlwind season.
First and foremost, remember that this is your day. It’s easy to get caught up in the expectations of others, but it’s crucial to stay true to yourself and your partner. Set firm boundaries about what you can handle and don’t be afraid to say no. Your mental health and happiness are paramount.
Delegate, delegate, delegate! You don’t have to do everything yourself. I know, I know, they may not do it as you want…but allow them to. Lean on your support system – your fiancé, bridesmaids, family members, or even a wedding planner. Allowing others to help not only lightens your load but also gives them a chance to be part of your special day.
Guard your time fiercely. Create a schedule that includes dedicated “wedding-free” zones. Use this time to nurture your relationship with your partner, discussing dreams, fears, and everything in between that doesn’t revolve around centerpieces or seating charts. Remember, your marriage is more important than your wedding day.
When it comes to family, set clear expectations early on. Be firm but kind in communicating your desires. If traditions don’t align with your vision, it’s okay to respectfully decline. Your wedding should reflect you and your partner, not a compilation of everyone else’s wishes.
Invest in things that will last beyond the big day. While it’s tempting to splurge on the dress, the table covers, the bridal party garments and church décor, my dear, focus on elements that will bring joy long after the wedding – perhaps a beautiful album, a piece of jewelry, or experiences you can cherish together. The tent, the chiavary seats and all other details will be irrelevant at the end of the day, will you have invested in things that last past that day?
Don’t forget to journal! Write down both the glorious and not-so-glamorous moments of this journey. It’s a wonderful way to process your emotions and create lasting memories. Years from now, you’ll look back on these entries with a smile, remembering the rollercoaster ride that led to your happily ever after.
Remember, dear bride, that amidst all the planning and preparation, the most important thing is the love you and your partner share. Everything else is just details. Embrace this season with joy, set those boundaries with confidence, and savor every moment of your unique journey to the altar.
Now, let’s talk about self-care, but not in the way you might expect. What hobby makes you feel truly happy and rejuvenated? Is it painting, rock climbing, writing poetry, or perhaps cooking exotic dishes? Whatever it is, go do that! Don’t conform to what’s common or expected. Your self-care should be as unique as you are. You matter, dear bride, and your personal joy is important. Keep that hobby close to your heart, even after you’re married. It’s part of what makes you, you.
Remember, you’re not just planning a wedding; you’re nurturing your spirit for a lifetime of love and growth. Speaking of nurturing your spirit, let’s talk about something deeply personal and powerful: your faith
In all of this excitement and chaos, don’t forget to keep talking to Jesus about everything – the good and the bad, the insufferable and the delightful. He cares for you deeply and genuinely wants to do you good. When you’re overwhelmed with decisions or family dynamics, take a moment to pray. When you’re bursting with joy over finding the perfect dress, share that excitement with Him too. God is delighted to see you wed the man He’s brought into your life. He brought you together, and He is the one who will keep you together through all of life’s ups and downs. Your marriage is not just a union between you and your husband, but a beautiful covenant that includes God.
Remember, dear bride-to-be, Jesus wants to hear from you often. Besides, if there’s a problem (and there might be a few in wedding planning!), who else can provide a solution but Him? He’s your source of peace when things get hectic, your joy when things go right, and your strength when you feel weak.
As you continue this journey towards your wedding day and beyond, keep your faith close. Let it be the foundation upon which you build your marriage. You are loved – by your soon-to-be husband, by your family and friends, and most importantly, by a God who rejoices over you.
Wishing you all the love and happiness in the world,
With love,
Maureen M.